How do we pass on our beliefs and values?
• our values are what we consider most important and will be reflected in how we spend our time, money, and energy
• what values are we modeling to our children?
• “notional values” and "real values”
• our values come from our core beliefs
1. Answering our children’s questions
• gives children a framework for understanding
• what life is about
• why are we here?
• what happens when we die?
• is there a God?
use distraction, distract your child from the issue causing conflict
develop your own tarntlu rules to avoid regular arguments
5. Give choices
being given choices is an important part of a child’s learning to take responsibility
give choices over issues that are unimportant,
Which of your toys do you want to take?” and “Do you want to play on the beach or go swimming?”
giving choices helps to defuse conflict
6. Stay in control
avoid being dragged into shouting matches our emotional reactions can give children a sense of power over us – like allowing them to press a “big red button” on our chests to see us react. getting angry, chasing them, getting upset
find a way to give realistic warnings
don’t be manipulated by your child(ren)’s shouting, whining, or tantrums
How can you stay in control of yourself when faced with bad behaviour?
