Parenting Children - August 28, 2012

Day 16 – Love Language – One to One Time

Parenting Children Ages 0-10


•  our children crave to be noticed by us and crave our attention
•  special time with each child develops their self-esteem and their ability to relate to others
•  can be difficult for us as parents to recognize this need and to fulfill it
•  the more children we have, the more planning and conscious effort it takes
•  channels of communication are opened through spending one-on-one time with our child(ren)
•  can transform a child’s behavior

eye contact:
•  can be used either positively or negatively
•  children learn by modeling - if we do it, they'll do it
•  easy when they are babies - but don't give up eye contact as they get older
•  good eye contact goes hand in hand with active listening

Question:
Do you have fond memories of 1:1 time with a parent? What memories can you create with your children one on one?

From Series: "Parenting Children Ages 0-10"

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4. Be one step ahead

  • use distraction, distract your child from the issue causing conflict
  • develop your own tarntlu rules to avoid regular arguments

5. Give choices

  • being given choices is an important part of a child’s learning to take responsibility
  • give choices over issues that are unimportant,
  • Which of your toys do you want to take?” and “Do you want to play on the beach or go swimming?”
  • giving choices helps to defuse conflict

6. Stay in control

  • avoid being dragged into shouting matches our emotional reactions can give children a sense of power over us – like allowing them to press a “big red button” on our chests to see us react. getting angry, chasing them, getting upset
  • find a way to give realistic warnings

don’t be manipulated by your child(ren)’s shouting, whining, or tantrums

How can you stay in control of yourself when faced with bad behaviour?

 

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