Parenting Teens - August 25, 2012

Day 9 - Home - A Place to Learn Good Relationships

Home is a place where teenagers learn how to build healthy relationships.

• Teenagers learn to relate through observing adult relationships • If parenting together, invest in your relationship (take our marriage course!) • If parenting on your own, build the best relationship you can with the other parent, when possible • Nurture other adult friendships • Mealtimes together – teenagers learn to talk, listen, debate issues, and respect others’ views • Regular family time – having fun together ias a family helps build relationships between parents and children and between siblings (consider having a weekly “family night”)

Question:
How can you intentionally model healthy relationships with others in your life, for your teenager to learn from?

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4. Be one step ahead

  • use distraction, distract your child from the issue causing conflict
  • develop your own tarntlu rules to avoid regular arguments

5. Give choices

  • being given choices is an important part of a child’s learning to take responsibility
  • give choices over issues that are unimportant,
  • Which of your toys do you want to take?” and “Do you want to play on the beach or go swimming?”
  • giving choices helps to defuse conflict

6. Stay in control

  • avoid being dragged into shouting matches our emotional reactions can give children a sense of power over us – like allowing them to press a “big red button” on our chests to see us react. getting angry, chasing them, getting upset
  • find a way to give realistic warnings

don’t be manipulated by your child(ren)’s shouting, whining, or tantrums

How can you stay in control of yourself when faced with bad behaviour?

 

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