• teach the difference between acceptable and unacceptable behavior
• explain the consequences - pleasant for good behavior and unpleasant for crossing the boundary
• tell them that the choice is theirs
• teaches them to take responsibility for their own actions
• reward “right choices” with descriptive praise
• use a "star chart” or the equivalent for persistent issues
• have negative consequences for "wrong choices.”
Question: What can help you reinforce “right choices”? What consequences can you put in place for “wrong choices”?
Can you think of an issue where you could work together more effectively as parents? Discuss the issue and try to agree on a joint approach. Brainstorm and write down a few ideas. Then choose one to try out, and review it after a few days or weeks.