Parenting Children - September 7, 2012

Day 24 - Setting Boundaries Part II

Choose the Right Battles

• pause for thought
• stop to think about whether your child is: HALT
o H - Hungry
o A - Anxious
o L - Lonely
o T - Tired

• Or, are you?

Recognize natural childishness
• Recognize the difference between natural childishness and disobedience
• This halves the battles we have to fight
• Adjust your expectations according to their level of maturity

Maintain a Sense of Humour
• find ways to lighten the atmosphere
• laugh together and with other parents

Question:
Complete the attached worksheet.

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Show an interest

  • involves effort and generosity
  • listen to what appeals to your child(ren)

Avoid shutting them down

  • value their ideas
  • allow them to express negative feelings such as disappointments, embarrassments, sadness, anxiety, and anger.

Reflect back

  • repeat back to your child what you think he or she is saying
  • reflect back to your child some of his or her words, but not in parrot fashion, as that can be annoying
  • concentrate on reflecting back the feelings you think your child is trying to express, e.g. it sounds like you feel upset or frustrated or sad?
  • reflective listening will help your child(ren) to frame their own feelings

Complete the attached worksheet.

 

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