Parenting Children - September 24, 2012

Day 41 - Symptoms of Unhealthy Control

I. Micro-managing our children's lives
• helicopter parenting - hovering over our children
• children don't learn how to think for themselves

2. Being over-competitive for our children
• puts undue pressure on children

3. Overscheduling our children's lives
• can be caused by fear that our children will be left out or left behind

4. Overprotecting and rescuing our children
• leads to children not taking responsibility or learning from their mistakes
• allow children to take increasing responsibility for themselves
• pass on information and values to give them a moral framework to live by
• Helping children make good choices

Question:
Complete the attached worksheet.

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Show an interest

  • involves effort and generosity
  • listen to what appeals to your child(ren)

Avoid shutting them down

  • value their ideas
  • allow them to express negative feelings such as disappointments, embarrassments, sadness, anxiety, and anger.

Reflect back

  • repeat back to your child what you think he or she is saying
  • reflect back to your child some of his or her words, but not in parrot fashion, as that can be annoying
  • concentrate on reflecting back the feelings you think your child is trying to express, e.g. it sounds like you feel upset or frustrated or sad?
  • reflective listening will help your child(ren) to frame their own feelings

Complete the attached worksheet.

 

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