Parenting Teens - August 22, 2012

Day 6 - Home - A Place of Safety and Acceptance

We look at the importance of our home being a place of safety and acceptance.

•Our family can be a shelter from the different storm our teenagers will face: disappointment, failure, rejection
•When they are hurt, they need our comfort and consolation
•We can demonstrate this practically by allowing them to talk and by listening to them
•Effective communication with teens requires time
•Discussing and debating with teenagers is more effective than lecturing and judging them.


Question:
What changes would you like to make to your family’s home life, in the area of safety and acceptance?

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Show an interest

  • involves effort and generosity
  • listen to what appeals to your child(ren)

Avoid shutting them down

  • value their ideas
  • allow them to express negative feelings such as disappointments, embarrassments, sadness, anxiety, and anger.

Reflect back

  • repeat back to your child what you think he or she is saying
  • reflect back to your child some of his or her words, but not in parrot fashion, as that can be annoying
  • concentrate on reflecting back the feelings you think your child is trying to express, e.g. it sounds like you feel upset or frustrated or sad?
  • reflective listening will help your child(ren) to frame their own feelings

Complete the attached worksheet.

 

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