Parenting Teens - September 4, 2012

Day 19 - Effective Communications Strategies Part I

We look at the role of listening and attention-giving in effective communications.

2. Learn to listen
• treat them like young adults (not children) • Listen carefully to their views and feelings

Effective communication requires that parents o learn to speak with their teenager rather than at their teenager (Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages of Teenagers) o engage in discussion and be prepared to debate the issues rather than repeating Simplistic slogans such as “You're too young to have a boyfriend” or “drugs are dangerous”

3. Give your full attention • recognize the important moments to listen and give your full attention • don't try to listen to your teenager while doing something else at the same time • maintain eye contact; observe your teenager’s body language

Question:
When have you had your best conversations with your teenager?

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2. Don’t try to arbitrate every fight

  • give them space to work out their own disagreements
  • remain impartial- don’t always blame the older child or jump to conclusions
  • intervene if they are hurting each other
  • don’t allow unkind words or bullying
  • think ahead for regular issues that cause disputes: take turns when possible

What are the main causes of arguments between your children?  Or between your only child and his/her friends?

 

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