Parenting Children - September 20, 2012

Day 37 - Helping our children manage their anger - Older children Ages 5-10

Parenting Children Ages 0-10

• read each child’s way of showing anger
• aim to teach them "expression," rather than aggression or "suppression"
• help them to express anger appropriately (verbally and pleasantly)
• correct rudeness, destructive behavior, swearing, hitting others, etc. - without shutting them down
• allow them to express negative feelings: hurt, sadness, anger, etc.
• not allowing expression or discussion can lead to passive aggressive behavior, i.e; using negative behavior to get back at parents, such as being uncommunicative, refusing to co-operate, or being deliberately annoying
• we need to recognize if we are contributing to the problem and our child’s anger
• don't punish for being immature in expressing negative feelings

Question:
For you, what will be hardest about reacting to anger in this way? Why?

From Series: "Parenting Children Ages 0-10"

Study Guide

More Messages Associated With "Children"...

Powered by Series Engine

2. Don’t try to arbitrate every fight

  • give them space to work out their own disagreements
  • remain impartial- don’t always blame the older child or jump to conclusions
  • intervene if they are hurting each other
  • don’t allow unkind words or bullying
  • think ahead for regular issues that cause disputes: take turns when possible

What are the main causes of arguments between your children?  Or between your only child and his/her friends?

 

2159