Parenting Children - August 17, 2012

Day 5 – Experiencing & Observing Healthy Relationships

Parenting Children Ages 0-10

Children learn to relate through experiencing, observing, and practicing various relationships within the family:
•  parent-child
•  mother-father
•  sibling-sibling
•  grandparent-grandchild
•  uncles, aunts, cousins, etc. Experiencing: parent-child relationship
•  children learn to love through experiencing their parents. unconditional love
•  important for children to feel accepted for who they are Our love and acceptance give our children confidence through building in them:
•  security (knowing they are loved not for what they do, but for who they are)
•  self-worth (knowing they are of value - their self-worth is based on what they think we, their parents, think of them)
•  significance (knowing there is a purpose to their lives, and that they have a worthwhile contribution to make) Ultimately security, self-worth and Significance come from God
•  we model God’s parenthood of us
•  parents are in loco dei (in His place to represent Him) Observing: mother-father (and other adult) relationships
•  children learn to relate through observing adult relationships
•  how we, their parents, speak and listen to each other
•  the physical affection we show
•  whether and how we resolve conflicts
•  children need to see firsthand the modeling of an intimate, committed adult relationship
•  if parenting together, consider doing The Marriage Course to invest in your relationship
•  if not parenting together, work at having thebest possible relationship with your child’s other parent (resolving conflict, forgiveness, consistency, etc.)

Question:
Where is your child learning most about how to build healthy relationships?

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3. Have time together as a family

  • don’t always eat separately
  • don’t have several TVs in the house
  • organize family nights, family outings, family vacations
  • do chores together
  • allow them to have fun together, playing childish games, being silly, playing outside
  • don’t always entertain them; allow them to be bored so they make up their own games
  • have fun together as a family

4. Give each child space and some privacy

  • some children need more time on their own than others

5. Help them to see each other’s good points

  • give them a sense of responsibility to look out for each other

What helps your child get along with other children better?

 

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