Parenting Children - September 20, 2012

Day 37 - Helping our children manage their anger - Older children Ages 5-10

• read each child’s way of showing anger
• aim to teach them "expression," rather than aggression or "suppression"
• help them to express anger appropriately (verbally and pleasantly)
• correct rudeness, destructive behavior, swearing, hitting others, etc. - without shutting them down
• allow them to express negative feelings: hurt, sadness, anger, etc.
• not allowing expression or discussion can lead to passive aggressive behavior, i.e; using negative behavior to get back at parents, such as being uncommunicative, refusing to co-operate, or being deliberately annoying
• we need to recognize if we are contributing to the problem and our child’s anger
• don't punish for being immature in expressing negative feelings

Question:
For you, what will be hardest about reacting to anger in this way? Why?

From Series: "Parenting Children Ages 0-10"

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  • normal toddler behavior between twenty months and four years old
  • you are not a bad parent
  • remember HALT
  • think ahead – distractions, choices, routines

When faced with full-blown tantrum

  • assume impassive face and body language
  • if in public, stay close or hold with firm hug till anger subsides
  • once over don’t show too much relief

For you, what will be hardest about reacting to a tantrum in this way?  Why?

 

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