Parenting Children - September 23, 2012

Day 40 - Encouraging Responsibility

Training our children for healthy independence
• we don't own our children
• we are helping our children move from parental control to self-control
• letting them go can be hard for parents
• a gradual process over eighteen years
• allow them to make their own decisions and learn from their own mistakes
• unhealthy control can be caused by wanting to look good, fear of failure, stress, or perfectionism

Question:
How can you allow your children to learn from their mistakes while still protecting them sufficiently?

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From Series: "Parenting Children Ages 0-10"

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1. Recognize it’s a long process

  • typically it takes at least eighteen years!
  • help them to realize that talking through an issue that has upset them is more productive than behaving badly

2, Try to find the root cause of the anger

  • listen to your child
  • HALT – are they Hungry, Anxious, Lonely or Tired?
  • may not be easy to work out root cause – they may not know
  • if we don’t find the root cause, they can become angrier or suppress their emotions, leading to rebellion later
  • create environment of openness and honesty to encourage communication

Complete the attached worksheet.

 

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