Day 38 - Teaching our children to manage their anger

Parenting Children - September 6, 2012

Day 23 - Setting Boundaries Part I

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Right and Wrong Choices

• teach the difference between acceptable and unacceptable behavior
• explain the consequences - pleasant for good behavior and unpleasant for crossing the boundary
• tell them that the choice is theirs
• teaches them to take responsibility for their own actions
• reward “right choices” with descriptive praise
• use a "star chart” or the equivalent for persistent issues
• have negative consequences for "wrong choices.”

Question:
What can help you reinforce “right choices”? What consequences can you put in place for “wrong choices”?

From Series: "Parenting Children Ages 0-10"

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More Messages From Parenting Children...

Day 1 - Introduction		August 13, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 2 - Challenges		August 14, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 3 – Family Provides Support		August 15, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 4 – Family Provides Fun & A Moral Compass		August 16, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 5 – Experiencing & Observing Healthy Relationships		August 17, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 6 – Practicing Healthy Relationships (and Parenting Alone)		August 18, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 7 – Setting Goals and The Importance of Play		August 19, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 8 – Screentime		August 20, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 9 – The Importance of Bonding		August 21, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 10 – The Importance of Establishing Routines		August 22, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 11 – Bedtimes	Parenting Children	August 23, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 12 – Introduction to the Love Languages		August 24, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 13 – Introduction to the Love Languages II	Parenting Children	August 25, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 14 – Love Language – Affirming Words	Parenting Children	August 26, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 15 – Love Language – Affectionate and Appropriate Touch	Parenting Children	August 27, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 16 – Love Language – One to One Time		August 28, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 17 – Love Language – Thoughtful Presents	Parenting Children	August 29, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 18 – Love Language – Kind Actions	Parenting Children	August 30, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 19 – Summary of the Love Languages	Parenting Children	September 1, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 20 - Combining Love and Limits - Why Boundaries Matter	Parenting Children	September 3, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 21 - The Challenges of Setting Boundaries	Parenting Children	September 4, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 22 - Where do we set boundaries	Parenting Children	September 5, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 23 - Setting Boundaries Part I	Parenting Children	September 6, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 24 - Setting Boundaries Part II	Parenting Children	September 7, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 25 - Helping Children Make Good Choices Part I	Parenting Children	September 8, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 26 - Helping Children Make Good Choices Part II	Parenting Children	September 9, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 27 - Helping Children Make Good Choices Part III	Parenting Children	September 10, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 28 - Helping Children Make Good Choices Part IV	Parenting Children	September 11, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 29 - Modeling and Practicing Relationships - The Power of Listening	Parenting Children	September 12, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 30 - The Power of Listening - Part I	Parenting Children	September 13, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 31 - The Power of Listening - Part II	Parenting Children	September 14, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 32 - Relationships with siblings and other children Part I	Parenting Children	September 15, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 33 - Relationships with siblings and other children Part II	Parenting Children	September 16, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 34 - Relationships with siblings and other children Part III	Parenting Children	September 17, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 35 - Handling anger - Ours and theirs	Parenting Children	September 18, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 36 - Helping our children manage their anger - Toddler tantrums	Parenting Children	September 19, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 37 - Helping our children manage their anger - Older children Ages 5-10	Parenting Children	September 20, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 38 - Teaching our children to manage their anger	Parenting Children	September 21, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 39 - Teaching our children to manage their anger Part II	Parenting Children	September 22, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 40 - Encouraging Responsibility	Parenting Children	September 23, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 41 - Symptoms of Unhealthy Control	Parenting Children	September 24, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 42 - Good Choices - Sex	Parenting Children	September 25, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 43 - Good Choices - The Internet, Games, Drugs and Alcohol	Parenting Children	September 26, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 44 - Passing on Beliefs and Values - Answering Questions	Parenting Children	September 27, 2012		Listen
Day 45 - Passing on Beliefs and Values At Home, With Others and On Money	Parenting Children	September 28, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 46 - Praying for our children	Parenting Children	September 29, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 47 - Developing family traditions, routines, and rituals	Parenting Children	September 30, 2012	Watch	Listen
Day 48 - Conclusion	Parenting Children	October 1, 2012	Watch	Listen

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1. Recognize it’s a long process

typically it takes at least eighteen years!
help them to realize that talking through an issue that has upset them is more productive than behaving badly

2, Try to find the root cause of the anger

listen to your child
HALT – are they Hungry, Anxious, Lonely or Tired?
may not be easy to work out root cause – they may not know
if we don’t find the root cause, they can become angrier or suppress their emotions, leading to rebellion later
create environment of openness and honesty to encourage communication