Parenting Teens - September 4, 2012

Day 19 - Effective Communications Strategies Part I

We look at the role of listening and attention-giving in effective communications.

2. Learn to listen
• treat them like young adults (not children) • Listen carefully to their views and feelings

Effective communication requires that parents o learn to speak with their teenager rather than at their teenager (Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages of Teenagers) o engage in discussion and be prepared to debate the issues rather than repeating Simplistic slogans such as “You're too young to have a boyfriend” or “drugs are dangerous”

3. Give your full attention • recognize the important moments to listen and give your full attention • don't try to listen to your teenager while doing something else at the same time • maintain eye contact; observe your teenager’s body language

Question:
When have you had your best conversations with your teenager?

From Series: "Parenting Teenagers"

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Training our children for healthy independence

  • we don’t own our children
  • we are helping our children move from parental control to self-control
  • letting them go can be hard for parents
  • a gradual process over eighteen years
  • allow them to make their own decisions and learn from their own mistakes

unhealthy control can be caused by wanting to look good, fear of failure, stress, or perfectionism

How can you allow your children to learn from their mistakes while still protecting them sufficiently?

 

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