The busy lifestyle can be brutal for parents, especially with children who are becoming independent.  This course has great practical help for parents of children age 11 and up.

If you’re parenting with a partner, ask them to watch or listen to the same content as you, so you can discuss the question when you’re back in one place.

This course is also great in groups – start by checking it out alone, but then invite someone else or a couple to join  you.  When you’ve been meeting in a group for a little while, register your group here.

Parenting Teens - August 27, 2012

Day 11 - Love Languages

Parenting Teenagers

Teenagers needs the confidence that comes from knowing they are loved. Their behaviour often acts like a gauge showing how full of love their internal “emotional tank” is. Today, we introduce the concept of the five love languages as a way of expressing love to our teenagers in order for them to feel loved.

Our teenagers’ greatest need is to feel loved and accepted during this enormous transition in their lives a time of: • self- discovery • pushing for independence • much self-questioning • peer pressure

they can experience a lot of self-doubt and feel awkward and unlovable • confidence rests on: • security (knowing they are loved) • self-worth (knowing they are of value) • significance (knowing there is a purpose to their lives) • seek to keep their emotional tank" full of lOVE: • their behavior acts like the gauge to show how full of love they feel

Knowing that they are loved and accepted enables them in the long-term: • to resist peer pressure when they need to • to make good choices • to build close relationships

Discovering how our teenagers feel loved
discover the primary way each teenager feels loved, whether it's through: • time • words • touch • presents • actions

(see Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages of Teenagers) • importance of a particular love language may have changed as a child has grown older

Which of the five ways of expressing love was most important for you during your upbringing?

From Series: "Parenting Teenagers"

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    1. Clare Masson
      February 7, 2013

      Hi Ryan,
      Unfortunately, I’ve missed a few days. However, now I’m back.
      Mind you, I am now being technically challenged.
      I’m in Parenting Teens and can not get any clip up except for the first one. I want the sixth one.
      I’ve tried clicking on various different ones with no luck.
      Please help.

      • Ryan Sim
        February 7, 2013

        Glad to have you back on track! The clips are working, so perhaps you ran into a temporary glitch. Do try again and let me know what happens.


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