Parenting Children - September 9, 2012

Day 26 - Helping Children Make Good Choices Part II

4. Be one step ahead

• use distraction, distract your child from the issue causing conflict
• develop your own tarntlu rules to avoid regular arguments

5. Give choices

• being given choices is an important part of a child’s learning to take responsibility
• give choices over issues that are unimportant,
• Which of your toys do you want to take?" and “Do you want to play on the beach or go swimming?"
• giving choices helps to defuse conflict

6. Stay in control

• avoid being dragged into shouting matches our emotional reactions can give children a sense of power over us - like allowing them to press a "big red button" on our chests to see us react. getting angry, chasing them, getting upset
• find a way to give realistic warnings
• don't be manipulated by your child(ren)'s shouting, whining, or tantrums

Question:
How can you stay in control of yourself when faced with bad behaviour?

From Series: "Parenting Children Ages 0-10"

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Giving thoughtful presents is one of the five love languages.

  • a way of showing our unconditional love
  • not only dependent on their behavior or performance
  • to celebrate birthdays, Christmas, other holidays
  • use presents to celebrate achievements or to bring consolation when they’re struggling
  • can be small but make big impact
  • find out what’s special for each child

Try to rank the five love languages in order of importance for you, and then for each of your children.

  1. time
  2. words
  3. touch
  4. presents
  5. actions