Parenting Children - September 9, 2012

Day 26 - Helping Children Make Good Choices Part II

4. Be one step ahead

• use distraction, distract your child from the issue causing conflict
• develop your own tarntlu rules to avoid regular arguments

5. Give choices

• being given choices is an important part of a child’s learning to take responsibility
• give choices over issues that are unimportant,
• Which of your toys do you want to take?" and “Do you want to play on the beach or go swimming?"
• giving choices helps to defuse conflict

6. Stay in control

• avoid being dragged into shouting matches our emotional reactions can give children a sense of power over us - like allowing them to press a "big red button" on our chests to see us react. getting angry, chasing them, getting upset
• find a way to give realistic warnings
• don't be manipulated by your child(ren)'s shouting, whining, or tantrums

Question:
How can you stay in control of yourself when faced with bad behaviour?

From Series: "Parenting Children Ages 0-10"

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Doing kind actions is one of the five love languages.

  • see the regular kind actions you do on their behalf as a way of showing them your love
  • look for opportunities to do something extra for them
  • be careful not to rescue them otherwise they won’t learn from their mistakes
  • give teenagers increasing responsibility
    • don’t do everything for them

remind them to express gratitude for what we or others do for them

How could the list of ranked love languages you made yesterday be helpful in your parenting this week?