• typically it takes at least eighteen years!
• help them to realize that talking through an issue that has upset them is more productive than behaving badly
2, Try to find the root cause of the anger
• listen to your child
• HALT - are they Hungry, Anxious, Lonely or Tired?
• may not be easy to work out root cause - they may not know
• if we don't find the root cause, they can become angrier or suppress their emotions, leading to rebellion later
• create environment of openness and honesty to encourage communication
use distraction, distract your child from the issue causing conflict
develop your own tarntlu rules to avoid regular arguments
5. Give choices
being given choices is an important part of a child’s learning to take responsibility
give choices over issues that are unimportant,
Which of your toys do you want to take?” and “Do you want to play on the beach or go swimming?”
giving choices helps to defuse conflict
6. Stay in control
avoid being dragged into shouting matches our emotional reactions can give children a sense of power over us – like allowing them to press a “big red button” on our chests to see us react. getting angry, chasing them, getting upset
find a way to give realistic warnings
don’t be manipulated by your child(ren)’s shouting, whining, or tantrums
How can you stay in control of yourself when faced with bad behaviour?
