Parenting Children - September 21, 2012

Day 38 - Teaching our children to manage their anger

Parenting Children Ages 0-10

1. Recognize it's a long process

• typically it takes at least eighteen years!
• help them to realize that talking through an issue that has upset them is more productive than behaving badly

2, Try to find the root cause of the anger
• listen to your child
• HALT - are they Hungry, Anxious, Lonely or Tired?
• may not be easy to work out root cause - they may not know
• if we don't find the root cause, they can become angrier or suppress their emotions, leading to rebellion later
• create environment of openness and honesty to encourage communication

Question:
Complete the attached worksheet

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Show an interest

  • involves effort and generosity
  • listen to what appeals to your child(ren)

Avoid shutting them down

  • value their ideas
  • allow them to express negative feelings such as disappointments, embarrassments, sadness, anxiety, and anger.

Reflect back

  • repeat back to your child what you think he or she is saying
  • reflect back to your child some of his or her words, but not in parrot fashion, as that can be annoying
  • concentrate on reflecting back the feelings you think your child is trying to express, e.g. it sounds like you feel upset or frustrated or sad?
  • reflective listening will help your child(ren) to frame their own feelings

Complete the attached worksheet.

 

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