Parenting Children - September 14, 2012

Day 31 - The Power of Listening - Part II

Show an interest

• involves effort and generosity
• listen to what appeals to your child(ren)

Avoid shutting them down

• value their ideas
• allow them to express negative feelings such as disappointments, embarrassments, sadness, anxiety, and anger.

Reflect back

• repeat back to your child what you think he or she is saying
• reflect back to your child some of his or her words, but not in parrot fashion, as that can be annoying
• concentrate on reflecting back the feelings you think your child is trying to express, e.g. it sounds like you feel upset or frustrated or sad?
• reflective listening will help your child(ren) to frame their own feelings

Question:
Complete the attached worksheet.

From Series: "Parenting Children Ages 0-10"

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Training our children for healthy independence

  • we don’t own our children
  • we are helping our children move from parental control to self-control
  • letting them go can be hard for parents
  • a gradual process over eighteen years
  • allow them to make their own decisions and learn from their own mistakes

unhealthy control can be caused by wanting to look good, fear of failure, stress, or perfectionism

How can you allow your children to learn from their mistakes while still protecting them sufficiently?

 

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